Thinking before reacting is one of the noblest tools of human beings in interpersonal relationships.
In the first thirty seconds of tension, we make the biggest mistakes of our lives, we say words and have gestures in front of the people we love that we should never express.
In this quick interval of time, we are controlled by conflict zones, preventing access to information that would support our serenity, intellectual coherence, and critical reasoning.
A doctor can be very patient with the complaints of their patients, but extremely impatient with the complaints of their children.
They think before reacting in front of strangers, but not in front of those they love.
They do not know how to perform the prayer of the wise, in moments of tension, silence.
If we live under the dictatorship of response, the compulsive need to react when pressured, we will make mistakes, some very serious.
Only silence preserves wisdom when we are threatened, criticized, or wronged.
People are increasingly losing the pleasure of silencing, of introspecting, reflecting, meditating.
The popular saying of counting to ten before reacting is immature, it doesn’t work.
Silence is not holding back to avoid exploding; silence is respect for one’s own intelligence.
Those who perform the prayer of the wise are not slaves to the hit-back dynamic.
Those who pound their chest and say they don’t take insults home do not think about the consequences of their actions.
Those who take pride in vomiting out everything they think hurt those who should be loved the most; they do not know the language of self-control.
Disappointments are part of the menu of the best relationships.
In this menu, we need the seasoning of silence to prepare the sauce of tolerance.
To coexist with machines, we do not need silence or tolerance, but with human beings, they are fundamental.
Both are noble fruits of the art of thinking before reacting. They preserve mental health, awareness, and tranquility.
Silence and tolerance are the wine of the strong; impulsive reaction is the drunkenness of the weak.
Silence and tolerance are the weapons of those who think; instinctive reaction is the weapon of those who do not think.
It is much better to be slow in thought than quick to hurt; it is preferable to coexist with a simple person, without academic culture, but tolerant, than with a person of impeccable culture saturated with radicalism, egocentrism, and stardom.
Wisdom and tolerance are not learned in the halls of a school, but in the course of existence.
No one is worthy of maturity if they do not use their inconsistencies to produce it.
Every human being goes through turbulence in life. For some, there is a lack of bread on the table; for others, joy in the soul. Some fight to survive, others are rich and well-off, but they beg for the bread of tranquility and happiness.
Millionaires wanted to buy happiness with their money; politicians wanted to conquer it with their power; celebrities wanted to seduce it with their fame, but it did not let itself be found.
Whispering in everyone’s ears, it said: “…I hide in simple and anonymous things…”.
Everyone closes their eyes when they die, but not everyone sees when they are alive.
CARLOS HUGUENEY BISNETO
Multimedia journalist (radio, newspaper, TV, websites, blogs, and magazines)
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